Time management

From the picture we know it is about time for sure. what i have been through this semester was very bad at managing my time. Since i have not experienced much managed my time that well so i tend to get a little bit rush here and there. sometimes i got so panic that i would procrastinate every works because i lost somewhere. I would sleep all day long just to run away from piles of works. after weeks i got stress how to manage my time well, i slowly learned managing my time day by day.

       

    My friends also helps me alot giving ideas and sharing how to manage their time well. i would likely say that it is better for me to learn from this semester how to manage my time well for the next semesters ahead since i had 4 years to survive. from my experience managing time was we all procrastinate too much works that we forgot some of them almost near to the due date. Then, it would be a very tough week with tons of assignment is need to handover at the same time.

    As i experienced such a bad week, i learned that i have to find the information before the time they had given so that i would not have another bad night with sleepy eyes entering each lectures. i feel so bad those time for not respecting the leactures giving new knowledges. From now on, i will try real hard managing my time well. wish me luck. :)

MARSYA NURAFIQAH BINTI MOHAMAD ABDUL KARIM

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"KMC 1083"

     

KMC 1083 is the core subject that compulsory to all counseling students. My class for this subject is on Tuesday and start at 9 am to 12 noon. The lecturer that teaching me is Dr Fatahyah bt Yahya also known as Dr Far and she is a Kedahan. She has a very strong aura of a counselor. When she started the lecture, every single word that she said was very meaningful. I noticed that she has her own intonation while deliver her lecture that makes students focus and attracted. I also admire with her English pronunciation. In her lecture, she will teach on how to help people because the skills are very important in order to build an effective helping. Dr Far will explain deeply for every important points including the example of situation, This kind of lecture makes me fun and relax during class. Dr Far also mentioned before that we as a counselor should practice god ethics. For example, we have to listen more and talk less. This is because clients will become more comfortable to share their story. This kind of skill also reveals the professionalism in this carrier. Another one of her massage is we have to practice the concept of 'It is okay if we know, and it is also okay if we don't know'. This is because people will tent to share the problems to those who are seems like don't want to know more.

     This course very important because every people need their basic which is their starter to do somethings. Same goes to a counselor, they need to have basic helping skills before they can help the clients. Counselor also will be confronted with a lot of people with different attitude. If they do not have the basic helping skills, how they gonna handle those people. So, this subject are very helpful in order to do counseling session with clients. 

     In this course, we learnt on how to make clients feel comfortable, how to respond to clients stories, how to react when clients start to cry and also what kind of questions that can or cannot be asked. Talking about the type of question that can be ask is the open question. This is because open questions will help to elaborate and enrich the client's story. The example of open question are "Could you tell me more about that?" or " What else comes to your mind?". In the other hand, counselor supposed to avoid firing questions one after another as they would sound like an interrogation. Counselor also need to avoid from giving the 'two alternatives' in a question and avoid starting the session by asking series f closed question because it might give a wrong idea to client that he/she needs to answer 'yes' or 'no'. Counselor have to choose questions that are helpful and not to use i for the sake of asking. That are a little bit from what i had learned before in this class.

     In the nutshell, KMF 1083 need to be mastered by all counseling student in order to produce a great and accredited counselor. I hope all my classmates will score A for this subject and can apply all the knowledge in future once we become a counselor.

MOHD ZARUL FIKRI BIN MD SANI

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Second post on my thoughts about this class

Here’s to another.

Hi, Aliaa here. In my last post I talked about using CBT; but today I want to talk about our assignments. As you all know, we just did our individual assignments a while back; and I can say it’s a success. It was proven useful for me especially to actually try to do good deeds and help around while I can. Everyone has problems. Although we might not be looking for it but it follows us to wherever we go. Wouldn’t it be great if we help ease someone’s burden off their shoulders? Sure, it wouldn’t make our problems any lighter but you will feel a sort of satisfaction after you had successfully helped someone solve or make their problems bearable. It’s a sort of feeling that makes both you, the helper and helpee feels good. Definitely a win-win situation. I had also noticed that during the course of this assignment, I was working hard to do a good deed or to help someone. Although it comes naturally to us, but even the smallest of gestures are conducted as a good deed. From the biggest of things like buying your hungry friend some food to smiling to a stranger you met on your way to class. I think my biggest challenge was going out of my comfort zone and try to do new things, such as cleaning the toilet or picking up rubbish from the streets. I would usually go about my way when I’m walking to class and would pop in my earphones to listen to music while I walk with a serious face, but now, I’m actually okay when it comes to walking alone, I wouldn’t mind and I’d smile to strangers who caught my attention or my fleeting stares. For me, people being friendly and smiles a lot really could make up one’s day a whole lot better. Especially when that someone had a pretty unpleasant day.  A kind gesture, a small one would light up their lives once again. Perhaps we will be remembered, perhaps not. The good thing about helping others is that you will be repaid, if not sooner, maybe later, if not by the ones we had helped, maybe by some other people. God’s plan always works out. It is the one thing we should not fret. So, always try to do well to others and be good. What do you guys think? Drop some comments in the comment section. Please and thank you. 

Life as a counselling student

First and foremost, the Basic Helping Skill subject had taught me to be a good helper. A good helper means when you help people, they will feel like being helped and ease their business and they love it. in order to be a good helper we supposed to have the helping skills. So, in this class, Dr Far taught me a lot on the helping skill. Foe example, how we want to start the conversation and what question need to be asked. It is not easy to handle people feeling and we have to be very careful during the session. Some of the skills are we have to give minimal respond to our client during session. This is because we have to encourage client to talk and we have to convey that we are listening to them. This minimal respond can be in the form verbal reaction and positive facial expressions. Next, I also learned how to paraphrase the client problems after they shared with us. This skill is very important to translate client's idea and to let them know that we always understand on their stories. There are a lot more skills that i learned besides those skills that i mentioned. For instance, i learned the skills of clarifying, checking, reflection, questioning, chunking and so on.

     Apart from that, in this course, we have to complete some individual and group assignment in order to get a good carry marks. My first individual assignment was i had to write about my self and a little bit about my family. During completing that assignment, I started to know my self very well and gain my love towards my family more and more. I also need to write about the happiness project which i need to do at least three good things in one day and i need to do it until seven days. During that seven days, i felt that my self had been controlled to do a good things because I'm worried i will not fulfill the three good thing in one day. I'm feeling so blessed. Next, i need to write a 'Letter of Gratitude' to the most meaningful person in my life which is my beloved Mom. I wrote that letter with sincere and came from my heart.

     On the other hand, for the group assignment, students need to conduct a live helping session and we have to demonstrate the skills and theories that we had learned. My group members and I need to record that helping session and make the report. What i have learned during this assignment is the teamwork. This is because we are able to do it together even thought we are always clash our schedule and our routine also different and it need a very well plans. The challenge is we have to relate with the the theories and the skills that we had learned and it is the hard thing to do because sometimes, during making the video, we can't focus fully because we kept think on the theories and skills that will be applied.

     In the nut shell, this course is very fantastic and I always excited every Tuesday to attend the class because I know the subject is not too dry and I can see the counselor soul in Dr Far when she is teaching in the class. She always highlight the important points like what are dos and don'ts. I learned so much on counselor carrier and what is the counselor's roles. Overall is very god and i love it.💖💖💖💖💖.

MOHD ZARUL FIKRI BIN MD SANI

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Pengalaman di Sepanjang Kursus Kaunseling

            Haii semuanya sekali lagi. Hari ini saya akan menceritakan pengalaman saya berada dalam kursus kaunseling di dalam bahasa Melayu, bahasa kebanggaan kita. Setelah berada lebih dari satu bulan di dalam kursus ini, saya telah memperoleh banyak pengalaman yang tidak dapat saya lupakan. Selain daripada bertemu dengan rakan yang baru, saya juga telah mengenali ramai pensyarah yang baik-baik belaka.

            Di sini saya ingin kongsikan pengalaman saya di sepanjang membuat kerja kursus yang diberikan oleh para pensyarah, baik secara individu mahupun secara berkumpulan. Pengalaman saya sebelum ini, saya pernah membuat kerja kursus individu di waktu saat-saat akhir kerana terlupa tarikh penghantarannya akibat terlalu gembira menikmati cuti pertengahan semester. Namun, saya sangat bersyukur kerana ada sahabat yang telah mengingatkan saya tentang hal ini meskipun si dia hanya mengingatkan saya tanpa sengaja melalui status whatsappnya. Tanpa membuang masa, saya telah pun berusaha untuk menyiapkan tugasan tersebut kerana masa yang ada tinggal sedikit lagi. Terima kasih kepada sahabat saya, Emma yang telah memberikan semangat meskipun saya berada dalam keadaan panik pada waktu itu. Peringatan buat diri saya dan para pembaca, jangan lakukan tugasan yang diberikan di saat-saat akhir kerana ia boleh memberikan tekanan kepada diri sendiri.

            Saya juga ingin menceritakan perasaan dan pengalaman saya ketika membuat kerja kursus secara berkumpulan. Sejujurnya, saya sangat suka bekerjasama dengan setiap ahli kumpulan saya walaupun terdapat banyak kumpulan yang saya ada kerana subjek yang di ambil juga tidak kurang banyaknya. Sebelum menikmati cuti semester, saya dan ahli kumpulan saya, anda tahu siapa anda, telah berusaha menyiapkan tugasan yang diberikan oleh pensyarah sehingga lewat malam. Kami sekumpulan telah bercadang untuk menyiapkan tugasan yang diberikan hanya dalam masa satu hari, namun amat mengecewakan kerana tugasan tersebut tidak diterima oleh pensyarah. Hari berikutnya kami telah membuat perbincangan kembali dan saya amat berbangga dengan ahli kumpulan saya kerana sanggup berkampung di bawah blok hanya untuk menyiapkan tugasan yang diberikan. Semoga hasil kerja kami pada kali ini diterima setimpal dengan usaha dan komitmen yang diberikan.

            Melalui pengalaman saya dalam membuat kerja kursus di dalam bidang kaunseling, saya telah banyak mempelajari sesuatu yang baru. Segala pengalaman manis dan pahit yang telah ditempuhi di dalam kursus ini amatlah saya syukuri dan hargai. Tidak lupa saya ucapkan ribuan terima kasih kepada para pensyarah kaunseling yang tidak henti-hentinya mencurahkan ilmu, khususnya Dr. Fa yang telah memberi kesempatan untuk saya menceritakan pengalaman saya di dalam blog ini.

ARUNA RAUNA DUAMIT

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Here's my First

Hi, I’m Aliaa, probably some of you guys wouldn’t know me, and some do. To be honest, I actually don’t know what to expect from this class at first. Basic Helping Skills. Sounds simple enough. First impression on Dr. Fa was, she looked like a counselor to me, and indeed she was. I vaguely remembered our first energizer when she stepped in. Was it the Gummy Bear? Hahaha. So far so good. I learnt a lot on techniques of being a counselor. Although this job is highly underrated, and the society doesn’t really care or knows that counselors exist or serve a purpose in the society, (which was my thoughts too) but I came to know a lot about counseling and how it affects the lives of people. All our subjects are related somehow, and we learnt how humans work, basically, and why they act the way they did. However, most importantly is that you don’t need a reason to help someone and that even the smallest of things could be a good deed or a form of help. The first few weeks had been hectic, with us not fully adapting to our situation and familiarizing ourselves with the ways and the life of a university student. Although I’ve yet to remember everybody’s names but I’m pretty sure I know every face there is in class. About the syllabus, I can say that it’s actually very useful to us, not only as a fellow helper, but also as a human being. The DASIE model for example is an excellent guide for helpers. Although I think that mainly we use PCT or Person-Centered Theory or also known as Rogerian Theory in our daily lives as it does not require any specific techniques and what not, I think CBT is more relatable to me. Why? First of all, it is true that how we think and how we perceive a situation determines how we feel towards it; and our mind is the only thing we can control. There’s a saying quoted by Buddha, “The Mind is everything, what you think you become.” It is proven that having a positive attitude towards will attract positive outcomes and we will be happier in the process. So instead of finding the wrong or blaming someone else, how about we change how we think and act towards the situation, thus we won’t have to suffer greatly. What do you guys think? Give me your honest opinion on this in the comments. Thanks.

-Aliaa Maisarah binti Yusof-

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My Thoughts On Basic Helping Skills Class

          Hello everyone. I am Nur Ashikin. Probably one of the quietest in the class that I am not sure if you guys know that I existed. Pardon my joke if it is not funny. I am here to share my thoughts on the class that we are currently attending in our first semester which is the Basic Helping Skills class. At first, I don’t understand why should we learn about helping people when it is actually something that we had done in our daily life. I mean, even a 3 years old would be able to do it. So, basically what’s on my mind was probably this class is going to be like the boring usual class in our secondary school. Here are my thoughts after attending the class for a while now.

On my first class for this subject, the mentality I had was like the one I had stated until, our lecturer, Dr. Fa came in and we start to do the ice breaking activity. I was very nervous that my hands felt cold, sometimes I felt like my stomach was rumbling and it hurts. Not because I was hungry but, it was all caused by my nervousness. The introduction of ourselves was very interesting. One of the question was “what is your specialty?”, sounds like a simple question isn’t it. This was the hardest question for me, because I am a boring person. Unlike my other classmates, they had the talent to play instruments, they can sing and the list goes on. I had never thought very hard on myself on what my specialty was. So, I decided to tell the class something I can do for others and something I am known to be good at. Well, I told them my specialty is that I am good listener instead of telling what my talent is. I find it to be kind of weird because it was so different from others.

Next, on the last week 7 of our semester it was the due date for my individual assignment. Of course, I am a bit excited I guess as it is my first individual assignment to be submitted. I want to talk about how I felt about completing the individual assignment. I absolutely love the assignment because I think I am free to tell the lecturer about myself. It was as if there is no restriction to what you want to write about and one thing I wish about the assignment was that I would love it more if it has no restriction on the number of the pages allowed. When I completed the assignment, I just realized on how much I had done good deeds on a particular day even without I realized. At first, receiving the three good things exercise was a bit of a challenge to me. Because, I thought of on how people would react to it and another thing I thought of is to smile at stranger especially the cleaners. I am prone to think of the bad feedback I would get from people but, I was completely wrong. So, this actually taught me to do good things voluntarily and it won’t hurt to do good things.

Finally, I am excited of awaiting the days coming to be in this class. My thoughts on the class had completely changed as I learnt this class taught me the skills on how to be a professional helper and not just a helper like I had imagined before. So, I think things and the coming assignments is going to be very interesting and I am looking forward to accomplished what ever it is given to me.

NUR ASHIKIN BINTI MOHD RADZI ASMARA

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