I never know what is Basic Helping Skill until....

Hai and Assalamualaikum everyone :)
 okay let see... you know.. this is my first time came to Sarawak and I'm the only one in my family studied here. okay before that let me introduce myself. My name is Fatin Zulaikha Binti Mohd Zulkifli. I'm 19 years old.. I'm from Selangor and before I went here I'm graduated from Kolej Matrikulasi Selangor. I'm a first child in my family. i think that all. if you want to know more about me just comment below okay ;).

I will start my story but actually it was not really a story just my experience.
based on my title.. I never know what is Basic Helping Skill until I went to this class. hee
literally I love this class so much because it is really relax and not to much pressure my mind.  i never know actually in our life when we helping someone we are using this helping skill. and I never thought minimal response is one of the skills too.  and I realized that we need skill to help someone. even we don't know that the skill is a skill but when you enter this course you know that.
Thanks to Dr. Fa by teaching this course. seriously I said I see her as our mother in class her kindness her smile makes me feel relax and feel like I'm at home. haha.

i don't know what to say know.. i think for my first time posting this I talked no to much.
I think that's all. Thank you :)

Fatin Zulaikha Binti Mohd Zulkifli
55983
First year student 
22/11/16

6/12/16-new post
  okay guys.. I want to add something in here. I love being in Dr.Fa's class and  thought by her. I hope in the future I can still learn from her and gain more and more experience on Counselling and be a good Counsellor one day.. Aamin. I hope my classmates, counselling student really ging to achieve what we want to be and become a proud for counselling student. I do hope my classmates and me never giving up on what we  will achieve from now on. Goodluck for everything and Best luck to everyone. Final is just around the corners. Finish up your assignment and Do well on it. FIGHTING !!!

   I want to add up my feelings on the exam.. it really freaking me out because I'm not well prepared. but I do want to get good mark so I need to understand what I've learned and make use of it so I can use in the future and gain more knowledge. Literally while typing this post, I did'nt sleep. and now was 05:46 so I cannot sleep because I drank too much coffee. hahaha. serve me right. so I just writing and write this post until it got 300 words. haahahaha


I want to share something to you guys.. yesterday I do a role play. there was Hanim, Nanan, Jessy, Abi, Thirah and Dr.Fa in Dr.Fa's room. so Hanim and everyone in there was a counsellor while me as a helpee. so I talked about something that makes me cry... crying.. ALL OUT!.. I'm not holding my tears. because I'm not strong holding and keep it for myself anymore. So I really let it out yesterday during the role play. The thing why I cry because I really MISS MY PARENTS!!..

I do have other problem but the key to my problem is that I miss my parents so much. even I do call them lately but I miss to see their face, their smile and give me support on what I love to do.

I guess this much I can Wrote. Maybe next time. See you later. Byeee

Prepared By: FATIN ZULAIKHA BNTI MOHD ZULKIFLI 55983

ASSALAMUALAIKUM AND HELLO EVERYBODY....

Individual assignment.

The first assignment is about described own self. It was quite difficult to make because I do not like to share with others the story of my life. I'm not that easy to talk to people I do not know very much. But through the assignment, I try my best to set it up. I try to make myself open for people because it also has related with being a counselor. As a counselor, we must make people surrounding trust us and be confident with us. To get all this, it starts with our own self that can attract people to trust us. Through this assignment, I also get to know better my own self. Not everyone knows better their self. Can be said also that some fool themselves for not being able to accept the fact. That why sometimes issues arising in daily life. This assignment also trains me to do a good thing in daily lives.It because we must write down three good things a day for a week.  With that assignment, we also know how to appreciated people surrounding us. It is because there is a part of writing letter for whom we want to say thank a lot that did not do before this.  

IRA 

Group assignment.

Cooperation with the group member is very important. Do not create selfish attitude. Together and support each other mutual assistance in order to get better results. Everyone has a different view, so we must compare and choose the ideal one. When making the discussion we must respect each other ideas produced. Together to find a conclusion. It also teaches me about time management among the members. Trying to make the situation happy and enjoys that moment with the team's member. It will be very fun when we enjoy that moment. Even we stress that time but try to put it outside for a while.

Together make the best experience

Survival with friends 

Norshahira Binti Abu Bakar
-5946

First impression about basic helping skills

Salam and hi to all. I think that all of you must have the first impression about Basic Helping Skills right? For my first impression is that I thought this is a tough subject and it is going to be a boring class but I am wrong. When Dr. Fatahyah introduce herself I felt the positive aura coming and making the silent-as-graveyard class being more active and more interactive even though the class is at 2 o’clock in the evening. Actually Dr. Fatahyah is a very passionate lecturer that teaches every students in her class. We can see on how she handled us in the class and making the quiet student speaks and involving him or herself in the class. 

After several weeks of classes I found out that this subject is not that hard at all. All of the skills taught by Dr. Fa are the skills that we are using in our daily life without even knowing the name of the skills like minimal response, questioning and much more. This is so interesting when all of us heard for the first time in the class. And about the classmates at first sight all of us seems pretty much fierce and arrogant but after the ice breaking sessions all of us become friendly and talkative. 

For me this is a subject that every counselor must sit and must learn about the knowledge taught because the skills are so important to be practiced during counseling session with the client. Every skills is important to be mastered or we as a counselor cannot help to solve or guide the client to solve his or her own problems. Wrong skills used would cause the client feeling useless and not helping him or her to solve the problems faced. Thus making this subject is compulsory to every one of the trainee counselor and a counselor to be. 

Ammar Yassir bin Yussri

58455

Individual and group assignments experiences

Assigment 1:)

 Our first assignment in Dr. Fa's class was more into about ourselves. What I learnt in this assignment was I was able to get to know more about myself. I was able to express all about myself in this assignment  including all the positives and negatives one. Also, while I am telling about myself , I can do reflections regarding my behaviour. Through this I can make changes towards more positive behaviour. Besides that, in this assignment also, we are able to tell about our family. Through this, we can appreciate our family for who they are because no matter what, they are the one who always be with you through all the ups and downs. Despite all of this, this assignment also required us to list all the good things that happen to ourselves. From this, I learnt that even if we have to go through a bad day, there must be a good thing that will makes you happy even if it is a small thing.

We are also have to write a letter of gratitude to a person to show that we are appreciating their help that they had done to us.

  So from this assignment 1, we learnt that we should appreciate and be grateful with everything that we had in ourselves. This is include ourselves, family and the life that we live now. 

Keep calm and just enjoy your life :)

Group Assignment

After the assignment 1, we are required to do assignment 2 where this is a group assignment. In this assignment, we must make a video that include a helping session based on theories that we had learnt in this class, that is PCT and CBT. However, we are only required to choose one theory only. Then, we must present it in front of the class. 

  So first of all, there are 4 peoples in my group for this assignment. On the first day of our meeting, we had to shoot a part of our video. We choose CBT as our theory. The main actor is Marcos where he acted as a person that always have negative thought about his surroundings including his friend, Gozzie. So, this creates a conflict between them. Me, as a helper are trying to help Marcos to change his thought into more positive based on CBT theory. From this group assignment, we are able to learnt more about CBT theory. Also, we can apply the value of teamworks in order to get this assignment done. Without teamwork, it can be hard for us to get the things done. 

My group members

56213(Jessy Malinda Malius)

Basic Helping skills Class:)

Hi,my first class in Basic Helping skills was on 17/10/2016. Yes, I came to class late than others because I was a newly registered student at that time. Not as a second intake student but from another faculty. As I entered the class, I was a little bit nervous and scared because I don't know anyone in this class furthermore it was my first class anyway. As Dr. Fa entered the class , she was asking in that class what is the previous lecture was about? The class anwered "Helping skills in helping session". Then , she began to ask the students randomly what was the helping skills involved. All the students could answer it with easily plus with a short recap from Dr. Fa.  From there, I could learn a bit about the skills needed in helping session.

       Then, Dr. Fa proceed the class with  another lectures that is ethics in helping skills, then model and theories. From this lectures, I was get to know that in order to conduct a helping session, we must follow the proper ethics. Somehow, my attention was attracted to the model and theories lecture. In this lecture we learned the DASIE  model that used to help helper to handle the helping session besides to managing problem. From this I wondered about myself if I can be a good helper to people and I really hope that this model can help me to handle the counselling session in future. At the same time I was also scared that I cannot be someone that can help people because in my thought not everyone can be a professional helper like counsellors.

                                                          "Can I really be a good helper?"

   Besides that we also learnt  two theories in this class that is Person centered therapy and Cognitive Behavior theory. I was really attracted to these two theories. First is Cognitive Behavior therapy where it is about how our thought can really affect our emotion and behavior. From this, I can relate to my everyday situation. According to this theory, if we think about the situation in such unhelpful way, it really can affect our emotion and action. For example, thinking that our friend is mad with us just because they accidentally ignored us. If we think too negative about it, it will make us really uncomfortable and vice versa. This theory attract my attention because this is what I do sometimes. I am such a negative person sometimes. I always think that I am not capable in doing anything. However, learning this theory really makes me to open my mind that we should change our thought in order to change our behaviour in a positive way. The second theory is Person centered therapy where this theory stated that human is rational, good and capable in doing their responsibility. I found that this theory also good because it is a humanistic approach. From this theory , I learnt that everyone have their own tendency to be a good people no matter how bad they are. Also, this theory emphasizes empathy, congruence and respect into the relationship with helpee.

                                             We really need skills in order to help a person. :)

To conclude, I learnt a lot from Basic Helping skills class even it was my first class that day. I am looking forward to learn more about helping skill and  really hope that I can practice it in my everyday life besides in helping people.



56213 ( Jessy Malinda Malius)

FRIENDSHIP

They are the ones who show us our strengths when all we see is weakness; they point out our good character traits, like courage and loyalty, when we are down on ourselves. They remind us of past accomplishments and spur us on in our future. They build into our lives and we are richer for having spent time with them. We come away with a stronger sense of ‘self’ because we have been together.

The feelings bring in doing helping. When your friends  are in sadness, also you had to feel empathy to them. While you are in sadness, they are also have with you to make you happy. It is the reason why reflection is important in friendship.

We are also use the analysis technique in the reflection. For example when you are want to understand aspect the communication or time management might have played a central part in the outcome. Analysis technique is very useful when helping a friend to get a good of reflection.

People who leave you with this reflection are not true friends. Why? Because they are do not have with you went you guys need to understand in each other. This is not call the reflection. If you are just help your friends, but they are not have to help you when you are need the help, it is just a helping in one way and no reflection.

Be mindful of the reflection you hold up to those close to you. How do they feel after an interaction with you? Be intentional about reflecting back their strength of character. Be gentle when honesty requires a hard look at something in another’s life. Be conscious of building people in a way that challenges them to continue moving forward in their lives.

Sorry for the bad english :D

NURUL UMAIYRAH ATAN (59863)

WHAT IS BHS?

Assalamualaikum and hello guys. I am Umaiyrah and you guys just call me Umai. Here I want to share the first story about Basic Helping Skills course and me.

I am a second intake student in Bachelor With Honours (Counselling). I had to register the programme and the courses before I start my class. I observe the course that is KMC 1083, Basic Helping Skills is like a Jabatan Pertahanan Awam and others uniform that have a helping session. I am so blur of the beginning. Luckily, some friends came to help me in my first day of this class and they took me to the class.

Dr. Fatahyah is my lecturer whose teach me in the Basic Helping Skills. I knew her that she is a cheerful and enthusiastic in teaching. She asked us as second intake students to introduce ourselves. I was a little embarrassed when confronted with other friends but nevertheless I had try to talk even my voice is not melodious hehe. Dr. Fa asked us to write our names on blue paper that given by her and put the paper on our table. While teaching, Dr. Fa sometimes loves to story about the environments and events that have happened in her life. From that, we can learn to take the moral value from her story.

The first I learnt in my first day is begin from Unit 2: Helping Relationship. We are as the second intake students have been left out for the Unit 1. The Helping Relationship explain about the helper-helpee relationship. The main point is the skills and the issues, also about values, beliefs, needs and expectations.

And now, I'm still trying to love Basic Helping Skills course even though sometimes I do not understand in this study. Here I would like to thank to Dr. Fa because always give the words of encouragement and teach me and my friends without her despair. 

Sorry for the bad english :D

NURUL UMAIYRAH ATAN (59863)