Experience Makes You Learn

If someone were to ask me what I remember the most about Basic Helping Skill class, I would say it is the rain! I cannot remember how many times I arrived home in soaked clothes because it always raining on Monday during the early semester. Same goes to Theory of Counseling class by Puan Aina on Friday. I even sometimes get into class with my wet socks. Thanks God it never went smelly during the classes.

Anyway, I forgot to introduce myself earlier. Assalamualaikum and hello, guys! My name is Nur Farhanim binti Baharudin, the one and only student in Unimas that holds 57214 as her matrix number. I come from Semporna, Sabah and as well as you guys, I am also a first year counseling student at age of 19.

As I have mentioned earlier, I was able to make so many new experiences by attending this course. All over these times, I always thought that being a counselor is super easy task especially when you are born with good communication skills. The truth is, it requires lots of reading and studies, continuous practices, able to understand the underlying message in clients’ stories, also being a good listener. According to what I learnt, counseling is not to solve other’s problem rather it is more to let people express their problem and share with someone before decide by their own with some guidance from counselor on how to fix or at least reduce the arising issues.

Honestly, I am very excited to undergo some series of counseling session very soon but I am a bit worry due to my bad attitude. I used to judge people based on my first impression and my first impressions on others are always negative. Due to that perception, I am now working hard to change the way I think about others and applying unconditional positive regard when dealing with some strangers. Yeah, guys! It is obviously the Person Centered Theory (PCT) approach.

As a normal human being, I also deserve to be a client to other counselor because I also face some issues in my life. If I were to be in that position, I would prefer if the counselor applies the Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT). I am saying so because I have so many issues regarding on how I perceive the world. Some people even labeling me as an over thinker.

To sum up, I learn so many new things and information in this class. I finally realize just how important the theory is to counselor. Also, I am able to fix a bit on my misconception on counselor’s role. Last but not least, I want to thank Dr Fatahyah for being such lovely, understanding, and negotiateable educator along this one semester. Hopefully, I will be able to have another class with you for the upcoming semester.

Even though we address you as Dr "Far", you are always near to our heart.
Chia chia chia <3

I guess that’s all from me for this entry. Wait for my next entry about my experience in completing both individual and group assignments. Anyway, happy blogging, guys!

Nur Farhanim binti Baharudin

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I NEED YOU !

      HEY ! I NEED YOU ! WHO ? YOU ! I NEED YOU TO BE WITH ME AND HELP ME IN BHS CLASS AND BE A SUCCESS COUNSELOR 👩👩👩 . WHO ELSE IF NOT YOU, MY FRIENDS >< . 👯👫👭👬
  
     HAHA ! What a dramatic starting . LOL 😝😝 ! Btw , hye ! I'm Asyikin and i'm sure that you guys know me right ? For those who does not know me , that is my picture . Cute right ? HAHA 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈 .  Okay , back to serious 😊😊 . Today , i want to share about what i feel about the first time i attend the Basic Helping Skills class by Dr Fa 🙆🙆🙆 . Okay , firstly , when i open the door there many things playing in my mind such as " is that true that i'm taking this counselling course ? ", " can i catch up this course ? " and " what is KMC1083 ? " . I feel blank and i don't know what should i do 😭😭😭😭😭😭 . Then , i sat at the middle of the class with Hanim , Nisa and Fazu and looked the other friends . I want to admonish them but i'm scared because they sat with their gang which is Syira , Fazz , Rene , Ejay and Brodie 🙊🙊🙊. After a few minutes , Dr Fa came to the class and i felt very happy because i can felt that Dr Fa is a nice lecture and can help me in this course . I said from the bottom of my heart and not to flatter Dr Fa . 😏😏😏 Hehe  . 

      When it comes to introduce yourself , i felt shamed 👉👈 because Dr asked about abilities and i don't know what i should say 😨😨😨😧😧 . Then , when it comes to my turn , i just said that i like to dance 💁💁💁😅 randomly when hear music . Actually , there are many things that i want to tell but like i said before , i shamed . HAHA 😂😂😂 . But now , there are no more shame with other friends because we have know each other 👏👏. From that , there are many things that i know about my classmate and i felt like WOW ! 👀👀👀They are amazing people because they have many abilities that i does not have .💪💪💪
   
       Next , Dr Fa explain about the course and i felt scared 😓because i can't imagined what the subject is about . Dr Fa also asked to rate about the subject at the morpheus and i answered " not sure " 😰😰😰but inside my heart , i put self determination that i can catch up the subject , KMC1083🙌🙌🙌 .  Okay , i think thats all from me . Hope you enjoy read my post 😘😘😘. Wait for my next post . Thank you ! 💞

Love , 
Norasyikin Binti Beddu 
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From Nothing to Everything

"The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires."

Assalamualaikum and good afternoon dear readers... Today, I want to share with you another interesting post that I had learnt in Dr. Fa classes. In the previous post I had shared with you guys about my thought of Basic Helping Skills class. So for this post, I want to share my experiences made the assignments.

For Assignment 1, which is Individual Assignment, I could said that I'm a little bit shy to tell my story to other people. Because I think my story is not as interesting as others. But I tried my best in making the assignment. If you could read that my expression about anger, it is true but I'm not express all about anger. I want to write more but I couldn't. And I also want to thank you for helping me solve my trauma. Your advice to me really make me feel better than before. Thank you very much.

For Assignment 2, which is Group Assignment, consists of report, video and slide, I could say that I enjoyed during the video making. Because it changed me. I really don’t know how to act and I couldn’t act in front of the camera, and when I re-play the video, I laughed at myself. But my favorite part is I like to try something that I have never done before. And I’m success. At last, it’s done by me, Rene and Hafiz. And I want to thank them for helping me makes this video successful. And I also want to thank Hafiz for editing this video. Without him, this video couldn’t be done. And also thank to Rene for helping me finished this assignment together. Thank you very much for both of you.

And for overall, I want to say that Basic Helping Skills taught me about how to manage and handle our client and with the skills given, I had practiced to my client and its work. So, I will use the skills anytime I handle my clients.

Ok I hope you enjoyed read this post. Thank you for your attention.

Syahirah Binti Abdul Hamid

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THE REAL SESSION

How you guys do feels when the real counselling session in the class few days ago? Honestly it is the first time that I handled a counselling session before and I am so nervous! When Marcos tells about his own REAL problem I am totally shaking literally and my hands were getting cold because I never had a personal counselling session before so I did not know what to do and how does it works. 

Luckily Dr Fatahyah was at by my side at that time and she helps me a lot when I am out of words to be said. So from the session I learn that we must do a lot of summarizing so that the client feels he is being heard and he can continually tell us what are the things that have been lingering in his mind. I also learned that we need to focus on what the client wants to tell us so that we can have the empathy feelings thus making the client feels comfortable. During the session we must remember to do the SOLER which stands for:

S= Sit squarely

O= Open position

L= Lean towards the client

E= Eye contact

R= Relax

This five elements are the most important part that we as a counsellor must practice so that the client are feeling easy and comfortable with us. Failing to do these five elements will give further unwanted consequences in the future of the sessions.

Another important thing is by using the correct question with the correct theory that you been holding. Every theory has its own specialty and different ways to approach the core problems of the client. We as a counsellor must master a theory to be applied during the session because without a mastered theory, we as a counsellor will not able to help the client to solve his own problems even helping him to solve it.

That is all from me thank you

AMMAR YASSIR BIN YUSSRI

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Assalamualaikum and good afternoon dear readers...
Today, on this blessed Friday afternoon, I want to share with you another interesting post about the syllabus that I learnt in Dr Fa classes. In the previous post I share with you guy about my thought of Basic Helping Skills class. This post is specially made for those who want to know more about counselling and the syllabus that was taught in Degree in Counselling with Honour in UNIMAS.
Helping is a process when a person who need help and being help by someone who is able to help. While helper is someone that can assists others to understand, overcome or deal with external or internal problems. In becoming an effective helper I need to have self awareness, understanding others, sensitive towards racial, ethnic, cultural factors in self and others. Dr Fa also taught me that therapeutic relationship between counsellor and client was confined to the therapy sessions and not overflows to social relationship.

In Dr Fa class, I also learnt that there are a few unrealistic beliefs that will happen as I becoming a true and good counsellor, namely,” if the client is not motivated, it is my fault” and “if I am effective with one client, I will be effective with every client”.  As a trainee counsellor I should avoid this kind of unrealistic believe so that I will not stress out myself and I can do my job right.
SOLER was introduced by Egan, 1998. In this SOLER attending skill, I learnt that even with body language I can encourage client to speak up.
S ⇨ face client SQUARELY- means you are interested and available to work with them
O ⇨ OPEN posture- non defensive and receptive
L ⇨ LEAN towards client- to let them know that you are attentive
E ⇨ EYE contact- your interesi their concern
R ⇨ RELAX- confidence and this helpee to relas too
I hope this post can help other people especially if they want to know more counselling. Thank you for your attention.

Anis ‘Asyikin Binti Agus Salim
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CHALLENGE AS UNIVERSITY STUDENTS

MARCOS ANAK JAMAL

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Before incoming to their university consist of students that are excellent in Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia (SPM) examination however academic achievement at university level not as excellent as like hoped. This may have been caused by learning style that is different between school lifes and also in the university. During at school level, teacher concentrate fully attention to guide students, while in student university level ignored independent and ignored independent and guidance from instructor is limited. some students fish out of water with new study style cause them heave. Many among students that yet to suit with way learn team (team learning) that badly need positive contribution from each member of a group. To succeed in learning in a group, need involvement, of which every member play respective role, mutually help and always share idea and opinion.

In this matter student need a personal resilience spirit that is high (strong will power) to face new challenges.Way learn that a lot require discussion found very little among students. This may be due to lack of read and less making private reference in library.Generally library in the university face customer problem, which students only concentrate time to library when examination period only. Many students that complained that reference material most is in English and this again student should equipping self in command of English. Another matter which occurred is student not like to buy scholarly books to be made a reference, would run copy of photocopy.Should be perhaps planted from early collect academic books and turned into mini library itself.

 Culture learn that healthy, like always makes discussion with lecturer and also classmate, urgent revealed by party concern, especially had to show up from lecturers or academic adviser in the university and also from student affairs. One of the big issue faced new student in the university is socialisation problem between students either current in lecture room or in activity that organised by university authority. This problem arises as family background difference, lifestyle and living standard. For example, student who come from family that is difficult and low living standard especially in the rural often fish out of water because feeling inferior.For student who come from family well off and only child on the other hand, they facing different problems.

They often could not give cooperation with other and more selfish friends especially in group project work.Luxury that they experience cause them insensitive and half-heartedly in facing their education. Until some are brave hire other people completing course work assigned to them.Peer influence that came from different background too , causing behaviour change that is sudden to new students, like influenced with social culture that is free until there is student that facing financial problems and also moral decadence cause their lessons are declining.Here very important student affair case role, of which they can do counselling session either individually or cluster. Students in IPTA really need guidance and counselor must be wise in playing role.

BASIC HELPING SKILL

salam sejahtera. my name is Tifany timas anak david 59960. I would like to share my experience when the first week i study about BHS. actually BHS first i think this very difficult because i do not what is? I am the person that so hard to understanding about something. but i was try my best.
what did i understand about this subject?

first is how we want to talk and help other person and how they thinking? in basic helping skill, it  giving a lot of skill for us to know how to help people and talk to them. By this skill, we will know what the problem that influence them. Trough this we will giving a help to a person. I having a situation which is my friend. she having a problem and that problem is involved her feeling. I just hear about it and both of us also will find a way to overcome her problem. I am not going to advice but try to understand her so that she will take a rational decision on doing something. for this also i can learn a bit about this subject. THANK YOU.:)

_TIFANY TIMAS ANAK DAVID_ @ 59960