PRACTICE MAKE PERFECT !

Can we value what is the meaning of perfect ? No we can. Because nobody perfect. But doing something can makes ourselves feel perfect.

SYAHIRAH BINTI ABDUL HAMID

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My point about this topic is whatever I had learned in this class actually give me from nothing to everything. Before I entered in this class, my mind feel zero about this helping skills. I feel uneasy to study together with friends in this classes. I feels that my knowledge about helping skill and my English language is not as good as the others. But from this issues, I tried my best to improve my knowledge step by step. and now, I'm still under progressing to improve and to increase my knowledge. I'm actually crying on my first day in class but nobody noticed about that. But I ignore that feeling because my mom said that tears is a key to success. You may cry now but don't cry about your failure on you graduation day soon. On top of that, I always remind myself to keep on moving when I'm feeling down.  Instead of that, I'm always learn from mistakes that I had did. For example, what I did in Diploma, I want to promise myself not to keep on doing in Degree. 

My first expression about this subject in this class is teaching me how to control our emotion with the practice skill by ourselves. And I'm also think that this class teach how to manage our client with the skills. And I'm true about this yeay ... Instead of that, with the skills that I had learned from this class makes me easier to manage my client in future. 

From this story, I summarized that I enjoyed during this class session. And I'm happy with the activities in the class with friends I loved. And I want to thanks a lot to Dr. Fa for teaching us with patient with our attitude. 

Lot of love.

 💗💗💗

   

WHAT I LEARN FROM THIS CLASS

MARCOS ANAK JAMAL

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my first class when i already register my course is basic helping skills. I was alone before that because i don't have any friends and we don't know each others. I learn something knew from this. I have see my class mate and they very friendly. The first assignment that i should do is about myself. i very joyful when i do my first assignment. besides that, this is my first time write my assignment using my own word without translate from google. i very thankful to DR. Fa because she teach me something that i never knew before.

Prof Datin Dr Aizan (2002) states between skill that is basic in helping is skill build relationships, skill encourage client speak, skill return, structuring skill, skill question, paraphrase skill, listening skills, skill lead directly, communicative skills, skill do minimum inducement, skill make feeling reflection, skill make an interpretation, skill make klarifikasi, skill explore, focusing skill, challenging skill, skill berempati, skill face silence, skill know theory and counselling techniques, skill give information, skill formulate, skill survey client, confrontation skill and skill check perception.

Before counselling session started, counselor should check client records to obtain information considered useful. Counselor also should be checking client task description. This may be useful to help in evaluating performance and process of building aim then later. Apart from that, counselor also must provide place and time that are suitable to discussed without many distractions. After that in a counselling session that is successful, counselor should try make client feel free in early per session. Showing because meeting clearly, while emphasising that counselor feel considerate with condition faced by 👦👦👦client and ready to give help.

Listen to actively Merupakan a skill that is most rudimentary and most important in counselling session. In this matter, counselor need spend more the time listen to from interrupt client speech. To really understand what has been talked by client, counselor have to pass on focus and observation that fully to hear all client speech. Other than speech, client movement (body language) while talking also should be seen and heard equally. All client's behaviour also play role that is important in delivering meaning certain the expression. Understanding that is accurate only will be acquired with the existence of good listening. In counselling context, there is couple of things that need in listen namely table of contents talked about, feeling born through behaviour without oral and also listened feeling stated. 

Listening is closely related by paying attention. Brammer (1973) formulates : tampa attention, only listened will not bring to comprehension, then communication does not exist. Listen to actively very important in every counselling level, the importance of listen to actively kereana it involving three kompenen namely eye contact, style listen to, and response, third kompenen show action pay attention actively or listen to actively.

My 2nd Chance!

Assalamualaikum and Good Morning dear readers 😆
So today on this bright and sunny Monday, I want to share with you guy my first experience that I get while learning in Basic Helping Skill class with Dr. Fa. So before I start let me introduce myself. My name is Anis ‘Asyikin and three years ago I was a Diploma in Counselling student and now I am a Degree in Counselling student. There is nothing to brag about that, cause there is a lot of thing that I don’t know about counselling.

Learning Basic Helping Skills is like giving myself a second chance to improve and gain more knowledge. Even though there are a few thing that Dr Fa tech in class that I already know, but there are a lot more that I need more explanation. When I was in diploma, I need to do my practical in any setting that I want in order to graduate. So my practical period was between 5th semester and 6th semester so the memory of my practical is still fresh in my mind. While doing my practical, there are a few thing that I don’t understand, so I take this chance to ask Dr Fa about it. It’s like giving me another chance to ask as many I want and learn as many I can. Its kind fun because I can know even more than what I used to know. While doing my practical at the hospital, I was disclosed to many cases from rape case to child abuse case. So when I enter Dr Fa class, I get the chance to ask and get more explanations about certain things. I hope I can learnt much more through out my degree life.

Anis 'Asyikin Binti Agus Salim
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WHAT I LEARNED IN CLASS

ASSALAMUALAIKUM AND HELLO EVERYBODY... 

My first impression about counseling is the only teacher. Help student and everything about student only not about people out of the school. So now it changes my perception about counseling. After that, I know the job as a counselor just listening to other people that want to share with us, no need technic just listening. So I totally wrong about counseling, it maybe because before this I am accounting's student, not counseling. so I did not know much about counseling. I very lack knowledge about counseling. To make people say their problem or issue actually needs technic that can make they believe us. It actually not easy to handle human because humanly is unique. Before to make people  trust us, we must train our self first to trust people. Yeah, it not easy but we must learn it how to handle it. To be a good counselor, we must have enough spirit. Humanly is unique, in this world, there are many variety people that not same with other. That why in this world have yes and no as answers. Not everyone will choose yes, certain people will choose no. 

       

 Humanly is unique

I enjoy to learned in class with Dr. Fa and friends. It teaches me how to handle client when doing the counseling session. How to use technic when to handle the client. Not with everyone we can use the same technic, sometimes we must change it. I also learn how to make client say more about their problem. When do the session, as a counselor we can not give an advice and can not choose the decision for client even client to want we do that to them. It is wrong. As a counselor, we only discuss with the client that were tangled with their problem. Explain to them what will happen if they choose this way and what will happen if they choose the another way. Every decision is only made by the client, not by the counselor. But we must accept the reality, not every problem we can help them to solve it. Sometimes there is  a problem that we can not help them but can refer them to another counselor or another place that more suitable to help them. When that thing happens we can not blame our own self because counselor also human that can do a mistake.
That all, thank you for reading...^_^

        

-Norshahira Binti Abu Bakar-59461-

MAKE ME REALISE

Assignment 1

It’s about our self….

And make the good things

Even its just a little things

But, that make me realise and be grateful

Actually… in our daily life, we have done good things.

Assignment 2

It’s in group assignment….

We must take and do video that related based on helping skills

Work together for make it look perfect.

I still remember when each of group member must present in front of the class

I was nervous and felt can’t do it and not ready

I told madam that I have “darah gemuruh” when speaking in front

And don’t have confidently to speech

Madam was said likely “ but you still can smile even you have that “

A smile can hide our weakness and nervous . That’s power of a smile.

I have learned so many things that I never realise it,

It is open my eyes and my mind for looking move forward

And make the step that we want to create

To helps other people we must help our self first

                                                                        ..........................

She’s like my mother

Her smile, voice and all the things remind me,

I’m so grateful to know her

Thank you Madam J .

_Noorsilah Said_57008

When I Learned For the First Time

Assalamualaikum wbt and have a greats day my dears friend....

           My father gave my name is Noorsilah and just called me SILAH. hehe..  Okey... I wanna to say nice to be here and can be a part of you all guys, especially in the class Basic Helping Skills. In the class BHS, I have learned how to be an effective helper and learn the other skills to helps the people in our life. There many skills that we never thought and sometimes we used it to help. Its a greats thing when I can learn somethings in this class with my news friend and also in the new environment. 

WHY my title is When I learned for the First Time ?

        actually, my heart wasn't prepared for it... but I want to learn somethings new and get an amazing experience at the other place especially at UNIMAS, Sarawak >< . Firstly when I have attended Dr.Fa class, madam ask for us what is Basic Helping Skills and what do you know about BHS ??? as a counsellor to be, we must learn and knows the basic skills for helping people and it also must begin to us for help ourself first. 

                                                                 
                          I need your HELP
                       ......................

I have learned,

Learned the ways that I never thought to be,

Learned the ways that I have never realise I can be here,

And,

Learned the Basic Helping Skills to become a counsellor/helper to be.

There are many ways to make choice in our life
So just make the step that can promise happiness
Even in the first step you have fall 

And 
There are many ways for helping people to face they problem

No matter your friends or someone else you know and never know also

Be a good helper and the one can believing you

Be a good counsellor and the one can build trust on you.
                                        

                              

Try your harder to solved the some issues

And make decision with their who needed some help and stronger

_Noorsilah Said_57008

basic helping skill

Hi everyone? nice to me you guys. i going to say what was my first experience when the first time i attend Dr.Fa class, Basic Helping Skill. but, i would like to share how was i when the first day attend this classes and the other. My friend is Umi Syamira ,she always helping me. for the first day i attend the classes until today. 

When the first time i attend BHS class, there are many new face i meet. we learn a lot of thing from Dr. Fa in how human thinking and also their perception to other people without they knowing and understand how they feeling. from that i have learn a lot of thing and also i can studies how human facing others people when they were in a problem.

Sometime what does i learn from this classes, it related in my daily life. Basic Helping Skill when i hear it i think it only learn something that only the basic about my course but after i try to understand it this subject is related to the theory that i learn from Madam Aina classes. there were a differences on other theory and sometime it also similar,

Last but not least, BHS is help me to try understanding the studies of my course . How a counselor or the therapist going to handle their client problem and issues that very influence them and the others people around them.

Thank you. Leave your comment. 

Tifany Timas Anak David(59960)

I never know what is Basic Helping Skill until....

Hai and Assalamualaikum everyone :)
 okay let see... you know.. this is my first time came to Sarawak and I'm the only one in my family studied here. okay before that let me introduce myself. My name is Fatin Zulaikha Binti Mohd Zulkifli. I'm 19 years old.. I'm from Selangor and before I went here I'm graduated from Kolej Matrikulasi Selangor. I'm a first child in my family. i think that all. if you want to know more about me just comment below okay ;).

I will start my story but actually it was not really a story just my experience.
based on my title.. I never know what is Basic Helping Skill until I went to this class. hee
literally I love this class so much because it is really relax and not to much pressure my mind.  i never know actually in our life when we helping someone we are using this helping skill. and I never thought minimal response is one of the skills too.  and I realized that we need skill to help someone. even we don't know that the skill is a skill but when you enter this course you know that.
Thanks to Dr. Fa by teaching this course. seriously I said I see her as our mother in class her kindness her smile makes me feel relax and feel like I'm at home. haha.

i don't know what to say know.. i think for my first time posting this I talked no to much.
I think that's all. Thank you :)

Fatin Zulaikha Binti Mohd Zulkifli
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First year student 
22/11/16

6/12/16-new post
  okay guys.. I want to add something in here. I love being in Dr.Fa's class and  thought by her. I hope in the future I can still learn from her and gain more and more experience on Counselling and be a good Counsellor one day.. Aamin. I hope my classmates, counselling student really ging to achieve what we want to be and become a proud for counselling student. I do hope my classmates and me never giving up on what we  will achieve from now on. Goodluck for everything and Best luck to everyone. Final is just around the corners. Finish up your assignment and Do well on it. FIGHTING !!!

   I want to add up my feelings on the exam.. it really freaking me out because I'm not well prepared. but I do want to get good mark so I need to understand what I've learned and make use of it so I can use in the future and gain more knowledge. Literally while typing this post, I did'nt sleep. and now was 05:46 so I cannot sleep because I drank too much coffee. hahaha. serve me right. so I just writing and write this post until it got 300 words. haahahaha


I want to share something to you guys.. yesterday I do a role play. there was Hanim, Nanan, Jessy, Abi, Thirah and Dr.Fa in Dr.Fa's room. so Hanim and everyone in there was a counsellor while me as a helpee. so I talked about something that makes me cry... crying.. ALL OUT!.. I'm not holding my tears. because I'm not strong holding and keep it for myself anymore. So I really let it out yesterday during the role play. The thing why I cry because I really MISS MY PARENTS!!..

I do have other problem but the key to my problem is that I miss my parents so much. even I do call them lately but I miss to see their face, their smile and give me support on what I love to do.

I guess this much I can Wrote. Maybe next time. See you later. Byeee

Prepared By: FATIN ZULAIKHA BNTI MOHD ZULKIFLI 55983

ASSALAMUALAIKUM AND HELLO EVERYBODY....

Individual assignment.

The first assignment is about described own self. It was quite difficult to make because I do not like to share with others the story of my life. I'm not that easy to talk to people I do not know very much. But through the assignment, I try my best to set it up. I try to make myself open for people because it also has related with being a counselor. As a counselor, we must make people surrounding trust us and be confident with us. To get all this, it starts with our own self that can attract people to trust us. Through this assignment, I also get to know better my own self. Not everyone knows better their self. Can be said also that some fool themselves for not being able to accept the fact. That why sometimes issues arising in daily life. This assignment also trains me to do a good thing in daily lives.It because we must write down three good things a day for a week.  With that assignment, we also know how to appreciated people surrounding us. It is because there is a part of writing letter for whom we want to say thank a lot that did not do before this.  

IRA 

Group assignment.

Cooperation with the group member is very important. Do not create selfish attitude. Together and support each other mutual assistance in order to get better results. Everyone has a different view, so we must compare and choose the ideal one. When making the discussion we must respect each other ideas produced. Together to find a conclusion. It also teaches me about time management among the members. Trying to make the situation happy and enjoys that moment with the team's member. It will be very fun when we enjoy that moment. Even we stress that time but try to put it outside for a while.

Together make the best experience

Survival with friends 

Norshahira Binti Abu Bakar
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First impression about basic helping skills

Salam and hi to all. I think that all of you must have the first impression about Basic Helping Skills right? For my first impression is that I thought this is a tough subject and it is going to be a boring class but I am wrong. When Dr. Fatahyah introduce herself I felt the positive aura coming and making the silent-as-graveyard class being more active and more interactive even though the class is at 2 o’clock in the evening. Actually Dr. Fatahyah is a very passionate lecturer that teaches every students in her class. We can see on how she handled us in the class and making the quiet student speaks and involving him or herself in the class. 

After several weeks of classes I found out that this subject is not that hard at all. All of the skills taught by Dr. Fa are the skills that we are using in our daily life without even knowing the name of the skills like minimal response, questioning and much more. This is so interesting when all of us heard for the first time in the class. And about the classmates at first sight all of us seems pretty much fierce and arrogant but after the ice breaking sessions all of us become friendly and talkative. 

For me this is a subject that every counselor must sit and must learn about the knowledge taught because the skills are so important to be practiced during counseling session with the client. Every skills is important to be mastered or we as a counselor cannot help to solve or guide the client to solve his or her own problems. Wrong skills used would cause the client feeling useless and not helping him or her to solve the problems faced. Thus making this subject is compulsory to every one of the trainee counselor and a counselor to be. 

Ammar Yassir bin Yussri

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Individual and group assignments experiences

Assigment 1:)

 Our first assignment in Dr. Fa's class was more into about ourselves. What I learnt in this assignment was I was able to get to know more about myself. I was able to express all about myself in this assignment  including all the positives and negatives one. Also, while I am telling about myself , I can do reflections regarding my behaviour. Through this I can make changes towards more positive behaviour. Besides that, in this assignment also, we are able to tell about our family. Through this, we can appreciate our family for who they are because no matter what, they are the one who always be with you through all the ups and downs. Despite all of this, this assignment also required us to list all the good things that happen to ourselves. From this, I learnt that even if we have to go through a bad day, there must be a good thing that will makes you happy even if it is a small thing.

We are also have to write a letter of gratitude to a person to show that we are appreciating their help that they had done to us.

  So from this assignment 1, we learnt that we should appreciate and be grateful with everything that we had in ourselves. This is include ourselves, family and the life that we live now. 

Keep calm and just enjoy your life :)

Group Assignment

After the assignment 1, we are required to do assignment 2 where this is a group assignment. In this assignment, we must make a video that include a helping session based on theories that we had learnt in this class, that is PCT and CBT. However, we are only required to choose one theory only. Then, we must present it in front of the class. 

  So first of all, there are 4 peoples in my group for this assignment. On the first day of our meeting, we had to shoot a part of our video. We choose CBT as our theory. The main actor is Marcos where he acted as a person that always have negative thought about his surroundings including his friend, Gozzie. So, this creates a conflict between them. Me, as a helper are trying to help Marcos to change his thought into more positive based on CBT theory. From this group assignment, we are able to learnt more about CBT theory. Also, we can apply the value of teamworks in order to get this assignment done. Without teamwork, it can be hard for us to get the things done. 

My group members

56213(Jessy Malinda Malius)

Basic Helping skills Class:)

Hi,my first class in Basic Helping skills was on 17/10/2016. Yes, I came to class late than others because I was a newly registered student at that time. Not as a second intake student but from another faculty. As I entered the class, I was a little bit nervous and scared because I don't know anyone in this class furthermore it was my first class anyway. As Dr. Fa entered the class , she was asking in that class what is the previous lecture was about? The class anwered "Helping skills in helping session". Then , she began to ask the students randomly what was the helping skills involved. All the students could answer it with easily plus with a short recap from Dr. Fa.  From there, I could learn a bit about the skills needed in helping session.

       Then, Dr. Fa proceed the class with  another lectures that is ethics in helping skills, then model and theories. From this lectures, I was get to know that in order to conduct a helping session, we must follow the proper ethics. Somehow, my attention was attracted to the model and theories lecture. In this lecture we learned the DASIE  model that used to help helper to handle the helping session besides to managing problem. From this I wondered about myself if I can be a good helper to people and I really hope that this model can help me to handle the counselling session in future. At the same time I was also scared that I cannot be someone that can help people because in my thought not everyone can be a professional helper like counsellors.

                                                          "Can I really be a good helper?"

   Besides that we also learnt  two theories in this class that is Person centered therapy and Cognitive Behavior theory. I was really attracted to these two theories. First is Cognitive Behavior therapy where it is about how our thought can really affect our emotion and behavior. From this, I can relate to my everyday situation. According to this theory, if we think about the situation in such unhelpful way, it really can affect our emotion and action. For example, thinking that our friend is mad with us just because they accidentally ignored us. If we think too negative about it, it will make us really uncomfortable and vice versa. This theory attract my attention because this is what I do sometimes. I am such a negative person sometimes. I always think that I am not capable in doing anything. However, learning this theory really makes me to open my mind that we should change our thought in order to change our behaviour in a positive way. The second theory is Person centered therapy where this theory stated that human is rational, good and capable in doing their responsibility. I found that this theory also good because it is a humanistic approach. From this theory , I learnt that everyone have their own tendency to be a good people no matter how bad they are. Also, this theory emphasizes empathy, congruence and respect into the relationship with helpee.

                                             We really need skills in order to help a person. :)

To conclude, I learnt a lot from Basic Helping skills class even it was my first class that day. I am looking forward to learn more about helping skill and  really hope that I can practice it in my everyday life besides in helping people.



56213 ( Jessy Malinda Malius)

FRIENDSHIP

They are the ones who show us our strengths when all we see is weakness; they point out our good character traits, like courage and loyalty, when we are down on ourselves. They remind us of past accomplishments and spur us on in our future. They build into our lives and we are richer for having spent time with them. We come away with a stronger sense of ‘self’ because we have been together.

The feelings bring in doing helping. When your friends  are in sadness, also you had to feel empathy to them. While you are in sadness, they are also have with you to make you happy. It is the reason why reflection is important in friendship.

We are also use the analysis technique in the reflection. For example when you are want to understand aspect the communication or time management might have played a central part in the outcome. Analysis technique is very useful when helping a friend to get a good of reflection.

People who leave you with this reflection are not true friends. Why? Because they are do not have with you went you guys need to understand in each other. This is not call the reflection. If you are just help your friends, but they are not have to help you when you are need the help, it is just a helping in one way and no reflection.

Be mindful of the reflection you hold up to those close to you. How do they feel after an interaction with you? Be intentional about reflecting back their strength of character. Be gentle when honesty requires a hard look at something in another’s life. Be conscious of building people in a way that challenges them to continue moving forward in their lives.

Sorry for the bad english :D

NURUL UMAIYRAH ATAN (59863)

WHAT IS BHS?

Assalamualaikum and hello guys. I am Umaiyrah and you guys just call me Umai. Here I want to share the first story about Basic Helping Skills course and me.

I am a second intake student in Bachelor With Honours (Counselling). I had to register the programme and the courses before I start my class. I observe the course that is KMC 1083, Basic Helping Skills is like a Jabatan Pertahanan Awam and others uniform that have a helping session. I am so blur of the beginning. Luckily, some friends came to help me in my first day of this class and they took me to the class.

Dr. Fatahyah is my lecturer whose teach me in the Basic Helping Skills. I knew her that she is a cheerful and enthusiastic in teaching. She asked us as second intake students to introduce ourselves. I was a little embarrassed when confronted with other friends but nevertheless I had try to talk even my voice is not melodious hehe. Dr. Fa asked us to write our names on blue paper that given by her and put the paper on our table. While teaching, Dr. Fa sometimes loves to story about the environments and events that have happened in her life. From that, we can learn to take the moral value from her story.

The first I learnt in my first day is begin from Unit 2: Helping Relationship. We are as the second intake students have been left out for the Unit 1. The Helping Relationship explain about the helper-helpee relationship. The main point is the skills and the issues, also about values, beliefs, needs and expectations.

And now, I'm still trying to love Basic Helping Skills course even though sometimes I do not understand in this study. Here I would like to thank to Dr. Fa because always give the words of encouragement and teach me and my friends without her despair. 

Sorry for the bad english :D

NURUL UMAIYRAH ATAN (59863)

MY FIRST THOUGHT ABOUT BASIC HELPING SKILLS

I still remember my first date attended Basic Helping Skills classed was at 12^th September 2016, which is week two. I did not attended the classed on week one because I had totally loss on searching the class. That’s sound very funny as I am first year student here.

            In the first classed, we had done ice-breaking activity, where all of student need to introduce themselves. We need to tell about our strength and weakness. After that, Dr Fatahyah had explain about our course outline and then about examination and assignment.

            My first thought about this course are it was very difficult for me to score good on this course. Moreover, when Dr Fa said that our final exam will be replaced with individual counselling session. I felt it very complicated because we are first year student. At the same times, our mark will be calculated based on technique and skill that we used during counselling session. Besides that, at that time I thought I cannot do it because I am quite person and maybe I will failed to handle that counselling session.

Counsellor try to help client solve problems

Individual counselling session

            But after few times came to this classed, it seem that I started to take it easy. Furthermore, this course had taught me about Person Centered Therapy (CBT), where human must change their thinking and behavior. If we set our mind that it is difficult, then it will be difficult. From now on, I have always think positive. I had become more easily to understand as the lecturer teach us with related the lesson with reality stories. With these explanation, I feel more enjoyable and not bored. Moreover, we had done our group assignment, where we need to make video about helping process between helper and helpee. Absolutely, this assignment can train me to have an experience in helping process. Lastly, I want to highlight that Basic Helping Skills not really difficult as long as we enjoy it. Thank you.

HILDA ANAK LAMPUNG

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